Lily Allen Said That Regularly FaceTiming Her Husband, David Harbour, “Gets A Little Bit Too Much,” So They Go Days Without Speaking To Each Other “At All”

“I feel like absence makes the heart grow fonder," Lily explained.

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Stephanie Soteriou
by Stephanie Soteriou

BuzzFeed Staff

As you probably know, British singer Lily Allen has teamed up with her best friend Miquita Oliver for a BBC podcast, Miss Me?, which launched earlier this year.

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On the podcast, Lily regularly opens up about her personal life, and has candidly discussed everything from her struggle with addiction to her decision to sell foot content on OnlyFans.

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In recent weeks, Lily has also spoken about her relationship with her husband, Stranger Things star David Harbour, who she first met through the exclusive celebrity dating app Raya back in 2019.

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Lily previously said she had no idea who David was when they first matched on the app because she had never watched the hit Netflix show in which he stars.

They went for a first date in a swanky London restaurant, and when the COVID-19 pandemic hit soon after, their relationship accelerated as David moved in with Lily.


The two got married in a Las Vegas ceremony in September 2020, and now live in Brooklyn, New York, with Lily’s two daughters from her marriage to Sam Cooper, 12-year-old Ethel and 11-year-old Marnie. 

Just last month, Lily lifted the lid on her and David’s sex life on her podcast, where she admitted that he “often” asks for them to do certain things in the bedroom that she will refuse to entertain.

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She also recently revealed that David thinks her new OnlyFans venture is “great,” adding: “At first, he was, like, not turned on, but he was like: ‘Is this a kink for you?’ And I was like: ‘No, it's totally not a kink,’  but maybe there's something in the power element of it that's slightly kinky for me.”

And on Monday’s episode of Miss Me?, Lily got real about how she and David cope when they are forced to spend extended time apart.

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She and Miquita explained that David is often away from home due to his filming commitments, with the actor currently shooting the fifth and final season of Stranger Things.

Sharing how they keep the magic alive almost four years into their marriage, Lily said: “We flirt, we send, like, flirty messages.”

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“Things are good, actually, with me and my husband,” she added. “We’re pretty open and flirty, and things are pretty good.”


Miquita then broached the long-distance aspect, saying: “You have a relationship that not all people will have, which is you're away from each other quite a lot, working. David’s away filming quite a lot, so I suppose all that kind of flirtiness through texting is important to keep yourselves connected in that way.”


“I don’t know, actually, if it’s good,” Lily interrupted. “I feel like absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

She then revealed: “We do FaceTime a lot, and sometimes it feels like it gets a little bit too much, and then we’ll have, like, a couple of days, a few days, not talking at all, and it’s great.”

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After agreeing that this time apart "reinvigorates" the relationship when they eventually reconnect, Lily made it clear that David is always her first port of call whenever she needs somebody to talk to.


“If anything important comes up, or I need some advice on something, he’s the first person,” she told Miquita. “He’s my partner, y’know?”

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